A habitually cynical outlook. A continual view of sexual life as a matter of full-fledged conflict between the sexes.
I talk about this "Game" and "PUA" stuff more than I probably should. One of the great problems of the modern age is that so much of our vocabulary is informed by people trying to penetrate the mainstream from a fringe position. And the "manosphere" that surrounds "Game" on the internet is a clusterfuck of competing fringe positions jockeying to own the modern definition of manhood.
What's worse is that they aren't wrong about the problem. Modern western civilization has broken too much of how we define both men and women. And of course every generation finds innovative ways to continue the war between the sexes.
One of the biggest problem about the war between the sexes is that it is just a time-honored tradition that every human generation, by the simple fact that they are in the process of producing a further generation, rinses and repeats without fail. It's not a fixable problem. Why? Because it's a feature, not a bug.
Sexual tension is just part of the human condition. There are winners and there are losers. And pretty much everyone gets to come up a loser all the time. But, not everyone gets to come up a winner at least once.
There is nothing wrong with Game in the sense that losers are stopping, examining their shit and recalibrating their approach. There's nothing wrong with fat guys running sprints. There's nothing wrong with skinny guys eating protein and hitting the weights. There's nothing wrong with dorky guys sorting their shit out and learning how to talk to girls.
Up to that point, the net value of the conversation on the internet is a positive thing.
Where things go south is when the losers stop really trying to recalibrate and instead start trying to assign blame to the opposite sex. What's worse is that a lot of manosphere is conservative-leaning (in the American sense) and has a bit of an underlying political agenda. Frankly, there's a lot of misogynistic shit out there. There's a lot of racist shit out there. There's a lot of angry dudes muttering about libruls and feminists and the nanny state.
None of that has anything to do with getting laid. It has little to do with forming a stable long-term relationship. And in some cases it's just downright toxic and counter-productive.
Worse, there are a lot of guys whose defeats with women seem to have left them at the point that the only relationships they can have with a women are antagonistic. Essentially, they can't function around a woman unless they are putting her down.
I'm a fairly liberal guy. So, obviously, I come a little predisposed to want to filter out the right-wing chaff from the actual good stuff in Game.
The funny thing is, I like strong women. I like women that can throw back a bit in verbal combat.
Now, those are the same women that manosphere types bitch endlessly about. "The shit test" is an article of faith. And worse, it's the fucking first sacrament of woman-hating. Guys who lose in pre-Game awareness harbor a lot of bullshit into their Game aware lifestyle. That shit has to stop.
There's nothing wrong with the notorious shit tests women put on for men. Why the fuck should a woman assume your game is tight without poking around and looking for holes? You wouldn't buy a goddamned used car without trying to find rust spots and busted springs! Why the fuck should a woman take any different view when acquiring a used man?
Are there broken women out there who abuse the shit test to take out their anger on men? Sure. Should that ever be your problem? Nope.
One of the best ideas to come out of Game is the notion of maintaining your state of mind. Your frame is invincible. Your lifestyle is solid.
There's no way you can piss and cry endlessly about "wha-wha! women are meanies!" and "feminism done broke the wimmin folk" and then turn around and even remotely pretend that you're operating in an independent state of mind. Bullshit. You're sallying forth and constantly fighting their war on their ground because circlejerking to the manosphere's persecution complex takes precedent over actually just living your goddamned life. Those guys want to have that fight on those terms, because having that fight against women is more important to them than getting laid and maybe even finding a decent girl and trying to wife her the fuck up.
Maybe women wouldn't be so damned bitchy if they weren't swimming in a sea of guys who act cunty all the time and then climb up on their soap box and talk about how clear and fucking aware they are since they unplugged from the Matrix. Pounding your keyboard commando chest and telling the world how you got wise to its bullshit is bullshit in and of itself. No matter how wise you may be to the world and all its shortcoming, you are still in and of this world. You're stuck with it.
You don't chasing ass with the women you want. You go chasing ass with the women the world provides. And crying to the refs about unfair the girls are being to you makes you a wimp.
Men with real game don't piss away their lives bitching and crying about the fall of western civilization. They pull their shit together and they go out and approach that next girl that catches their eye. They cut the shit and they go out into the big bad mean world filled with all the mean girls and they walk over with a smirk and a drink in their hand and they say, "Hello."
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