This is a post I am purely writing for the sake of throwing it in the main sidebar of the page.
Ladies? Let's talk about what you are even doing here. You came to this blog because you Googled some damn phrase like "why is he so aloof with me" or "trying to read an aloof man".
I know I'm not going to dissuade you from your mission. Like every human adult ever caught in possession of a vagina, you think you're special. You think this one fabulous aloof guy you're trying to turn is going to work wonders for you. I'd like to warn you, but I know better based upon LOTS of experience, that you think you're special and that nothing I'm writing here applies to you.
How do I know this? I am that guy.
I have spent my whole life watching women try to figure me out. In fact, watching women spin themselves in circles trying to get my attention is one of my favorite sources of narcissistic pleasure. Read a couple of the posts about my life experience. I have strung multiple women along for years -- literally multiple twelve month cycles -- purely for the benefit of my ego.
In more cases than I should ever want to admit to, I strung them along without a glimmer of hope. When I mean without a glimmer of hope, I mean zero sex, zero dates, zero anything. A little bit of talk. And not even much of that, if we're being honest.
I'm not some sexless defective pervert. I've fucked more than my fair share of chicks within two hours of meeting them. And I've made out with way more within an hour of saying hello.
There are in-between cases. Heck, one chick even got off-and-on sex for two years. But, I've never told any woman that I love her. I've gotten my rocks off watching numerous chicks do everything in their power to induce me into a relationship. And I hafta say I do enjoy occasionally blowing off the odd 8+ every now and then just to watch her get huffy and storm off. Nothing quite makes my day like watching some chick who thinks she's hot shit directly come on to me and fail miserably while trying repeatedly to get me to react.
Here's the brutal truth about me. My experiences from childhood through my early 20s taught me to never trust. Gaining my trust requires an investment of time and effort that escapes the capability of ANY human female. Women do not openly question aloof men because, at the end of the equation, the female sexual imperative places more value on being pursued than on getting the right guy.
Be honest with yourself. If you're after an attractive, aloof guy and you're reading this, you're trying to figure out a way to rig the game and trick him into hitting on you. It's that simple.
Guess what? You're a dumbfuck. You're wasting your time and you are going to fail. Worse? Your wonderful and completely useless ovaries release chemicals into your bloodstream that prevent you from ever just skipping line and directly asking him anything.
YOU DON'T HAVE IT IN YOU. Being a woman makes you a joke in that regard. Be honest with yourself about that fact. Women don't take real risks, even when they are convinced they have met the man of their dreams. Women will sooner cry themselves to sleep wondering why an aloof guy doesn't hit on them than actually just say something.
This is why dominant men run the planet. This is why women will be treated like shit until the end of time. Because, women DO NOT HAVE IT IN THEM. Women don't take risks. Women would sooner marry a less desirable man who wants to pursue them than risk being direct with a more desirable man.
In short. Give up. Accept what you are and move on to finding the inferior man who will at least humor your bullshit. You can't hotwire an aloof man. Don't bother trying.