Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Do girls like aloof guys?

Simple answer?  Yes, girls like aloof guys.

Less simple answer?  Yes, but . . .

1.  Remember, aloofness can go too far.  I say this as a naturally aloof guy.  Disinterest without any real possibility of reward will eventually force her on to happier hunting.

2.  Aloof can be a self-destructive behavior.

3.  It's hard to fake aloofness.

4.  There is no paint-by-numbers technique for getting women.  Most of the benefit of "Game" arises from the immediate benefits of engagement in general.  Most of the value of Game comes from simply getting your ass into the Game and actively engaging women.

I don't actually advocate aloofness as a Game technique.  Simply put, it's ill-suited and anti-social.  What aloofness teaches us about Game is the importance of not being too eager.  Women don't want a guy who seems desperate to fuck right now-now-now-now!!!!! dammit!!! 

Aloof guys win in this regard largely for the same reasons jerks win: women are misreading much older evolutionary hard-wired signals.  Women misread a distanced personality as a confident and not needy.  In fact, often, a distant man is just emotionally damaged.

Still, a large majority of women will take a distant, emotionally shut down man over a needy man.

So, understand what aloof guys are showing you.  BUT . . . do not parrot it relentlessly.  Pick it and apply it in terms of settling your personality down and being cooler.  Overplay it and aloofness will ruin your chances and -- more importantly -- ruin you.

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