The money quote . . .
A girl by herself does not care if you are an inspiring writer, or want to travel the world. But, she would love to show off to her friends what an ambitious, reach-for-the-stars kind of guy you are.
I haven't posted much lately, but this reminded me of a first date experience I had recently. I'm a big believer in salsa dancing as a first date. To start with, even if your data flakes on you, you're going to an event that's going to be like 70% female. It shows culture, sexiness, a willingness to engage in fun activities. Salsa dancing is killer. (Also, I'm an NFL-size white guy who people tend to incorrectly peg as kinda of conservative, so it tends to just blow the doors of assumptions.)
Anyhoo . . . my last real first date I went on a couple weeks ago I took salsa dancing. Needless to say, yeah, I closed that deal. But that's not the point of this post.
One of the first things my date did after we finalized our plans was to post it repeatedly on her Facebook wall. Straight up "hah! bitches! I gots me a man to take me salsa dancin so fucks youz!!!" type post. OK, not that loud, but in girl logic, bombing your friends with the great shit a guy does for you is pretty much always a polite way of screaming "ha bitches!"
It's good advice to model yourself into something that she can show off to her friends. I'm not wild about a lot of the PUA advice out there, but it's important to realize that women prefer their male partners to be success objects that they can exhibit to their friends in the form of "ha bitches!"
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ReplyDeleteI have been reading your blog with intensity the last few months because your ideology has me fascinated. I have to know what thoughts you have on this subject: Beta males purposely pointing out how beta their buddies are in order to feel less beta about themselves. I've had some interesting experiences and I want to know if that really does happen or if it's all in my head.
ReplyDeleteI don't consider anything I post to be an ideology. I mostly post for therapeutic purposes, and if I happen to ring an intellectual bell every now and then so be it. I concede that at this point in my life I do have a pretty clear sense of how I view the duel between men and women.
ReplyDeleteAs for beta males nuking their fellow betas . . . I wasn't raised in a culture where men do that. I don't feel qualified to speak to the behavior, because in the culture I grew up in you just didn't take chances by fostering the weakness of your peer group.
I will occasionally point out a beta behavior to a friend one-on-one in order to encourage him to fix that bullshit.
That's the best answer I'm able to give.