I have an old college friend, who we shall call Jimmy, who has spent his entire adult life kissing the asses of women who don't appreciate him. The guy is great at getting a girlfriend. Terrible at keeping them.
He is the classic beta male. His typical relationship goes about two to four months. And it ends with the chick cutting it off. And it ends with him exasperated because he has tried so hard to tell her how much he loves her. Yeah, that kind of beta. The kind of beta that women find reprehensible, but society won't allow them to just admit it.
His second most recent ex stayed in contact. Worse, she has recently tried to rekindle things.
Now, to be clear, Jimmy does not want her back. But, Jimmy and I talked a lot about it, and I couldn't resist encouraging him to use her as a testbed for a variety of game principles. What the hell? Why not? What better scenario than gaming a girl you hate is there?!
This chick was terrible to him. I can remember going out with the two of them about a year ago. She said unthinkably awful shit. She was constantly threatening to move. She told him what to do with his hair (and he did it). She told him how to dress. She talked about guys she wanted to fuck, right in front of him.
She insisted on regular dates but barely ever fucked him. And he was overboard. Even during a bad stretch of unemplyoment, he made sure they went out every weekend. Awful.
In other words, this was a full on alpha female against beta male conflict. This is the kind of shit game was invented to stop.
The first thing I told him is to start using their conversations to push her around (emotionally, don't worry, he's not the physical type -- and couldn't be if wanted). I told him to stop taking shit from her. Never agree to anything she wants. Insist upon everything he wants. Ignore her whenever he feels like it. Invent derogatory nicknames for her. All-in, more alpha male than is necessary to bed a girl.
The result just about made me shit myself!
Before we could even fully deploy the new alphafied Jimmy, she texted him asking him if she could come over. She was disappointed with her current boyfriend and she wanted Jimmy to fuck her brains out!!!!!
With minimal revisions, he had her in full "fuck me" mode.
The best part? Jimmy is still stringing her out and laughing his ass off at her every time!!!
Understand, Jimmy is true believer. A good man of faith who wants to one day fall in love and have a family and a nice house and all that shit.
Needless to say, this was beautiful. I've known Jimmy a long time and I have hated every one of his girlfriends. Few things in this world have ever made me as happy as watching Jimmy turn a certified alpha female into a begging lapdog. (FTR, of all Jimmy's GFs, this one is the one I hate the most. By far.)
Even better, I've been encouraging Jimmy to use a lighter, sexier version of this approach on an old high school acquaintance he stays in touch with but has never asked out.
The results? She started sending him photos of her in her bikinis.
I'm not the most hardcore social-sexual guy out there. I'm not big on pushing the idea that my friends have to be out there gaming their butts off. But, Jimmy needed this. Game was medicine for this poor man's soul.
While I don't advocate full-on misogyny very often, it makes my day to see a certified bitch get her comeuppance. And if a nice guy can go through the world a little more confident to boot, so much the better.