Thursday, July 9, 2015

How I see the world as a deeply uninvested male

Something that's been floating around my mind lately is the idea of how women objectify men like me, but they wish -- magically / somehow -- that a guy like me is going to come around and be nice. The entire romance novel industry is based on this premise, and like all forms of pornography, that's a clue as to how realistic it is.

A big chunk of what makes women so fucking dangerously nuts is that they think they're going to somehow magically split the difference on this one, gaining the interest of a male they see as an ideal alpha / dominant / billionaire with an 8-inch dick who can fly and then stuffing him into a container where he'll be awesome and fun and domesticated and loyal to her. Minding you, the minute he concedes to any of this, her attraction begins to drop like a rock.

With a guy like me, it's worse because I make it very clear upfront that zero concessions are going to be made. I'm not even gonna be bothered to lie to you even once in order to sleep with you. I am direct and honest about how I do things, and this leads to lots of pouting from women.

The logic on the female side is that she gains validation from every concession that an alpha male makes in order to sleep with her. That is what makes me a deeply infuriating guy: you're not getting a single concession from me. You can take that snatch of yours anywhere you damned well please, because I am not making any concessions. Pussy just ain't that important to me.

The cosmic joke of this is that women are wired to freak the fuck out when a guy does that. The lack of a single concession by a prospective mate makes him more attractive. And there are women who get completely jacked on that feedback loop. No concessions raises attraction, and then the higher attraction level makes her want to push harder.

The problem is that there's no exit from that loop. That's where I end up dealing with women who end up screaming at me, shoving me and having to be escorted away by security. They don't know how to jump out of the loop, so they basically escalate until they're left with no remaining option except violence and threats.

Something that's hard for me to get across to women is this: if you like me, hooray, but forget trying to make me do or be anything you want me to be. Just skip it, because it's not happening.

As I said, what's hilarious is that women lose there shit when a guy treats them this way. I was messaged a couple weeks ago on a kink website by a chick. I looked at her profile, saw she wasn't into anything I was really into and I told her that there's nothing there and she needed to move on. Also, if I'm being 100-percent honest, she could have used to lose 30 pounds and 5 years.

Did she move on?

Oh, hell no! Instead, she responds by telling me how much that raises her interest. I tell her several times, not gonna happen. That leads to attempts at initiating a longer conversation. I'll humor that as long as its not completely retarded. Then eventually she drops "aren't you gonna try me before you deny me?"

OMFG. I can't imagine being so hard-up that I'd ever say anything like that to anyone.

I will say that it never helps that I tend to go soft on women who aren't at the top of the heap in looks. I'll never drop a pure "fuck off" on them. I do this for the same reason you wouldn't punch a retarded kid: it's not cool to be mean to those who can't really defend themselves.

My point, ultimately, is that women go ga-ga over uninvested men, and then they get pissed when it turns out that univested men tend not to get very invested.

I think it's great that you want to feel good about yourself. Have at. I just think it might be a little wiser to find someone other than me to scratch that itch.


  1. LOL. I shit you not, I've been through this 2 weeks ago.

  2. Uninvested: in fact, twice this year I've been dumped (without even getting to 1st Base, I might add) for the following:

    Chick #1: "you're a great guy who's got everything going for him...but you're emotionally shut-down and you'd rather horrible to people than be nice....because that's easier for you. You will end up alone if you don't change"

    Chick #2: "Arrogant prick. You're good-looking and witty so why bother even contacting me if you're just going to say nasty stuff?
    Sad - you'll end up lonely and old"

    1. What I run into isn't dumping. It's doubling down.

      I suspect the difference is that I tend to not be overtly nasty about anything. With me, there's a low hum of benign neglect and indifference.

      People are not inclined to directly confront me about anything. So, what I end up getting is this series of little probes and prods seeking attention.

      I think women sort of view me like a video that game they feel they're just this close to beating. Instead of realizing that giving up is the only sane option, they double down.

      The only thing that pushes things along quicker is just how fast they elect to double down and how many times they're willing to do it.

  3. I also should only play 'games' with those women who truly deserve it.
    The "why is everything a test with you?" women.

    IMO, for me personally, it';s an ego-thing or an intelligence-thing - some of the prettiest women are simple to deal with, but it's the SMART ones that I gravitate towards because, they use similar devious, cunning and manipulative moves that I'm also prone to: the world is out mirror.

    Fortunately, the greatest relationships are built on trust and sincerity...NOT a case of 'Mutually Assured Destruction', which happened to me a couple of years ago: I got 'involved' with a not-so-close buddy's then-separated wife who was still seeing the same guy she left him for - and in my mind, aside from the fact there was a definite meeting-of-equally-dominant-and-selfish-minds, I was like: "Interesting woman. I can have her."
    The whole method of gaming here was for me, to take this woman, off the man who had taken her off her husband. Unfortunately, the chase became far more important than the eventual catch.
    Things were said, tears were shed, and it became a real shit-storm.

    If I sensed that she was hiding something or not being up-front, I would respond in kind. I calibrated my actions and behavior to match the other person’s and women, being the mate-choosers, are responsible for how men strategize to get in their pantiess and their hearts. If a woman makes it hard for a guy to be sincere by playing 'Miss Scheming Queen', he will react with more game(s).
    If a woman's letting a man know how much she loves him, he will be 100% real with her.

    At some point, you have to open your heart and let the chips fall - but with this woman I finally came to the conclusion: "if she's cheated on her husband...and now she's cheating on the other guy with me....I'm next in line".
    I basically scooped-up what chips I had left and got out of Dodge.

    But in time this doubt and game-playing has to disappear and you have to let yourself and your soul has to breathe...

    1. I'd like to say I play it differently in those cases, but I don't. I always enjoy jerking women around.

  4. You should really consider posting again...I check everyday, also,why did you stop the Twitter feeds?

    1. Haven't had a lot to say lately. Not inclined to maintain a posting schedule with this stuff.

  5. Very much enjoyed reading - so in your eyes why do you behave this way ?

  6. So in your opinion what makes / made yo behave this way ?