I was reading through the site stats and I ran across this very interesting question: "would you date an aloof guy"?
My knee-jerk reaction, as an aloof guy, is to say "no".
But, then I think about the alternatives that are available to women. And I start to think maybe that answer is a bit too terse.
Hmmm. It's a tougher question than I'd like to think. Of course, part of the problem is that I read that question as "Would I date me?" To which the answer is a resounding "Aw, hell no!"
I think one the problems a lot of women in general have with men arises from their unwillingness to make peace with the idea that when they go off trying to date a man, they may end up with a man. Modern American women, in particular, have been steered toward some really bad ideas. They've been told a whole bunch of shit that runs counter to both biology and simple reason. They've been told to look for a soft, sensitive soul mate who is also a millionaire entrepreneur and a firefighters and who rescues kittens, has a PhD and can win in a bar fight. In truth, women are looking for a fucking unicorn.
Biology tends to tip women toward seeking the more masculine aspects of the male. And then they complain that their man acts like a man. But, of course, if you're a guy and you try to tone the manliness down . . . well, good luck with that, sunshine!
That brings me back to the problem of dating aloof men . . .
Let's break it down into its pieces:
1. You're obviously attracted to him.
2. These men things often act manly.
3. You may be attracted to the manly thing. That's probably what you like.
4. Aloof beats douche-y!
5. Stop overthinking.
In fact, fuck it. Let's just call "stop overthinking" the official answer. You like him. Try it out.